5 Ways to Show Yourself Love This Month

February is all about love—but let’s make sure some of that love goes to the person who needs it most: you.

Because here’s the truth: self-love isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. It fuels your growth, replenishes your energy, and allows you to show up as your best self in every area of life. And when you intentionally nurture the relationship you have with yourself, everything else in life starts to feel more aligned.

So, how can you pour love back into yourself this month? Here are five ways to make self-love a practice, not just a once-in-a-while thing.

1. Speak to Yourself with Kindness

Your words matter—especially the ones you say to yourself. The way you talk to yourself shapes your confidence, your mindset, and even how you show up for the things that matter most to you. So let’s start here.

First, stop “should-ing” on yourself.

How often do you catch yourself saying, “I should really do this…” or “I should be further along by now”? That word “should” carries so much unnecessary pressure. The next time you hear yourself say it, pause and ask:

• “Do I actually want this?”

• “Would this support me right now?”

• “How would it feel to choose this instead of obligate myself to it?”

Swapping “should” for curiosity and kindness is a small shift that makes a big difference. It’s a way of honoring your energy, your values, and your well-being.

Another way to shift your inner dialogue is through daily affirmations. Over time, the words you repeat become the inner voice that lifts you up instead of tearing you down. If you need a little guidance, here are a few affirmations from the Purposeful Life Desk Easel to try:

• "I give myself permission to adjust as I go because I am always learning + growing and becoming the very best version of myself."

• "My goals are worth pushing through hard times. I can adjust my process whenever and however necessary so I stay committed to what I've determined to be important in my life. I can do hard things."

• "I invest my energy into the people and situations that are deserving, and I have healthy boundaries and protect my energy from those who aren't."

Try speaking one of these aloud in the morning or writing them in your planner. Over time, they’ll become part of how you see yourself.

2. Create a Self-Care Toolkit

Self-care is so much more than bubble baths. It's about giving yourself what you need to feel nourished, grounded, and more like yourself.

Think of a self-care toolkit as a collection of little things that help you feel restored. Maybe it’s a playlist that lifts your mood, a journal for processing thoughts, or a cozy blanket that makes rest feel extra inviting. There’s no right way, just what works for *you*.

Here’s how to create one:

• Make a list of activities that help you feel calm, recharged, or joyful.

• Gather any materials that go with them—books, candles, art supplies, your favorite tea.

• Choose a space or container to keep them in so they’re easy to reach.

• Most importantly, use it. Make it part of your daily or weekly rhythm.

3. Commit to Weekly Reflections + Actions

The life you want isn’t built overnight (if only it were that easy!). The life you want is created through small, intentional choices. And one of the most powerful tools for growth? Reflection.

When you take time to check in with yourself, you’ll start to notice patterns: what’s working, what’s not, and what actually feels good. That’s why the MäksēLife Goal-Setting Planner includes weekly reflections: to help you stay connected to your growth, not just your achievements.

Commit to setting aside 10–15 minutes each week to reflect and set your weekly actions. If you don’t have a planner, you can grab the FREE Weekly Reflections Worksheet from our printable library to get started.

4. Do Something Just for You

When was the last time you did something simply for your own joy? Not because it was productive or expected, but just because it made you happy?

This month, give yourself full permission to do something just for you, whatever that looks like:

• Start a creative project.

• Take yourself on a solo coffee date.

• Try something new that excites you.

• Spend time on a hobby, even if you’re “not good at it.”

Your happiness is worth prioritizing, friend.

5. Reflect on Your Growth and Celebrate Yourself

A key part of self-love is recognizing how far you’ve come. You are growing every single day, even if you don’t always see it in the moment.

So pause for a second. Think about where you were a year ago. What’s something you’ve navigated with more grace than before? What’s one thing you’re proud of yourself for? It could be big or small, both deserve to be celebrated!

Here are a few ideas to help you honor your growth:

• Write a love letter to yourself. Not sure where to start? Try finishing this sentence: “I’m proud of myself for...”

• Celebrate small wins. Every step forward is worth recognizing.

• Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend.

Loving yourself isn’t just a February activity, it’s a lifelong journey. But this month, let’s make an intentional effort to nourish, appreciate, and celebrate ourselves. You are worthy of the same love, kindness, and care that you give to others.

What’s one way you’re committing to showing yourself love this month? Come share with us in the MäksēLife Community—we’ll be cheering you on!